I didn’t think having a three year old would be easy, of course. But on turning three years old my little one seemed to suddenly grow up quite a bit and became a little girl as opposed to a toddler. After the rather challenging ‘terrible two’s’ I enjoyed having proper conversations with her, and her being able to do more things for herself. But my goodness, three year olds can be difficult.
I have found this last couple of weeks quite stressful with her and I keep shouting. Too much. I don’t like it at all; she’s three after all. A lovely little young girl just trying to find her way in the world with an impatient mummy who yells too much right now. I’m struggling. She just won’t listen to me and I can repeat something over and over again and then eventually when I’ve got up close to her and said it for the seventh time, she’ll say “yeah?”, like a question, like I’ve just said her name for the first time, like I literally haven’t been speaking to her for the last sixty seconds (it would at least be slightly better if she said “yes”). It’s the most frustrating thing in the world. It’s like I don’t exist. And it makes me so cross; I have a short temper which I’m not proud of but I struggle to control it when she is like this. I’m just so tired and tired of her being like this.
It’s like she has gone from a more grown-up little girl who is nice and polite and fun to be with, to this little monster who thinks she can do what she wants and does do what she wants. I know she is probably just testing her boundaries and being a typical little person, but the way she completely blanks me like I have not said a word is so hard to take. It’s been so bad that I have actually questioned whether there is suddenly something wrong with her hearing. It has been that bad. But I don’t think there is; she mainly does it just with me. Maybe she has just learnt to switch off from me. I don’t blame her to be honest.
I thought it would get better once she started nursery – that having other people regularly disciplining her and asking her to do things and having to listen to others would help her behaviour at home. I thought that not having the carers full attention constantly and having to share their attention would help. But actually it’s made it worse. Maybe because she has to fight for attention or at least share it at nursery she thinks I should be at her beck and call at home.
It might sound like I am making a big deal out of nothing and I know it could be worse; she could be going round hitting people or swearing like a sailor, and I am grateful for that. But it is really affecting me at the moment. The majority of the time I have to stop what I’m doing, go over to her and sit in front of her and speak to her and even then if she has something to say she may just talk over me. I was enjoying being able to ask her to go to the loo before we go out or to put her toys away or get dressed, but she just ignores me now or has a HUGE mardy and won’t move.
I am sure it is just a stage in the growing up process, and that soon I will have my lovely little polite, friendly and nice girl back, but meanwhile she is pushing me to my limits. I am trying my best not to yell at her, I really am. But it’s hard. I think I need to do more yoga.
Three year olds are difficult.
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