The past year was a whirlwind of emotions, ups and downs, highs and lows, and hormones after becoming a mama for the first time. As the new year has started I feel quite bright; excited and optimistic for the year ahead. Hormones are hopefully starting to settle down and I’m occasionally finding me again, rather than just mummy. At times in the last year I’ve felt anxious and a bit low and overwhelmed (I blame the hormones) and so I want to try and help myself this year to have a more positive outlook and to live in and enjoy the moment more. So here are my goals to help me do this.
I need to get better at not doing this. I think it’s worse at the moment due to my lack of self-esteem. There are always going to be people who are funnier, more talented, prettier or better at blogging than me. Lots and lots of them. I just need to accept this and be the best I can be without comparing myself to others. I do it a lot. And it needs to stop. I need to try to focus on my own strengths and learn to accept myself for who I am.
Find joy in the little things
It’s easy to focus on the bigger things in life, the holidays you’ll be going on, how much you hate your job; and instead of living the here and now, spending time thinking about what could be better, what you’re looking forward to each year. I want to be aware of what is happening today, and take in those precious little moments with my daughter; her giggle, the cuddles she now gives me, I want to notice the lovely sunny day and how good my cup of tea tastes (unless I made it!). I don’t want to just live for the bigger things, counting down the days until the next exciting thing happens. I want to live for today.
~ Catherine M. Wallace.
Get more fresh air
I want to get outside more with Ava, go to the park, play with the leaves on the ground, breathe in the fresh air and let go of all the worries in my head.
Do more exercise
I want to get fit, lose some weight and tone up. I want to feel and look healthier than I ever have, plus I’m getting married next year and I’m Maid of Honour in September for my sister’s wedding in Portugal so I want to look my best. I really think feeling better about my body will help with my self-esteem.
Have some time on my own and try to relax
I’ve barely had any time away from A since she was born. As she has always been breastfed, I couldn’t leave her for long as up until the last few months she still fed every couple of hours. And I haven’t really wanted to leave her for long either. Now she’s older (and not feeding all the time) we have started to leave her with her Grandma for a few hours at a time while we see friends which is lovely break. I do feel that I need some time on my own sometimes now though; to do whatever I want and to just get away for a short while and be Louise again. I’m thinking of joining a dance class or maybe even Yoga. Even though yoga’s not really me, I do need help relaxing and if I get a strong inner core whilst relaxing then so be it.
Do you have any goals or resolutions for this year my dears? I’d love to hear them.