Even though bloggers seem to be everywhere these days, it still seems likes it is one of those things that people find hard to understand or take seriously, which I can kind of understand. Sometimes it does seem weird that we share so much of our lives online with potentially the world (ha ha, if only!).
Revealing lots of stuff about our personal lives, photos of ourselves and our family, and sometimes even our darkest, deepest issues, is a bit strange when you think about it. But then, we share so much on social media anyway for anyone to access and, I also think it’s great that we can talk openly and honestly if we want to about things such as depression, infertility or whatever we feel like, and that then has the potential to help someone reading it, as well as us, by writing it.
However much a non-blogger can respect what we do and be interested in it, there still seems to be certain things that people believe about bloggers and blogging that aren’t exactly true. Understandably of course; they don’t have the experience of it, so they just see it from one side – the pretty pictures of fun days out and all the *freebies*.
So here are five things that probably piss non-bloggers off about us bloggers….
All the *free* stuff
Yes, as bloggers we are often given some amazing things or experiences to review, and I am so grateful for all of the wonderful things I, and Ava have received. But a lot of work (for most of us anyway ;) goes into those posts reviewing a product or service. We receive the product, spend lots of time trying to take good photos of it, edit the photos, use it enough to be able to have a proper opinion on it, research the company and product, and then spend time writing the post, then promoting it all over everywhere so some people see our post and hopefully make the company or PR happy. It’s not a horrible thing to do, and we do choose whether we want to receive these things and do all that it involves, but it is generally not a quick and easy thing to do.
So, I know you’ll probably keep calling them this just to spite us, but they’re not freebies :)
We get to go to lots of lovely events and drink Prosecco all day
Yes. Sometimes we do, and it is very nice. If you have read my blog over the last couple of months then you will see that I went to three blogger events, two involved a lot of Prosecco and one involved a lot of chocolate. They were brill; I got to meet blogging friends for the first time and who can deny that having your glass topped up with Prosecco all flaming night long whilst hanging out with some nice bloggers isn’t pretty wonderful? Yep, you’re right, it was. I’m not suggesting otherwise. This blogging lark can be gooood!
Those events were the first one’s I had ever been to, and I have blogging for bloody years. Last year I stepped up my blogging game, worked bloody hard and it has started to pay off. For months now I have stayed up every night working on my blog rather than relaxing in front of the tv. And also, it was Christmas – I probably won’t get invited to another event for the rest of the year now (I hope I do though!).
At all of these events I have spent time trying to get some good photographs that I can put into a post about the event that I will write after, when really I just wanted to be relaxing and enjoying myself with my new drunk friends. I’m not complaining in the slightest, but it’s not just a normal fun night out, and they don’t (unfortunately) happen all the time.
We talk about blogging. A lot.
Yes. Yes we do. Sorry. Our blogs are generally about our lives, and so we can’t switch off from that. It often has to fit in around everything else, and so there is no 9-5 and switching off straight after. Sometimes we wish there was. Blogging often becomes a part of everything we do, and if our child says something funny we try to remember it ‘for the blog’. It can be hard going for a nice family day out without making sure you have got some decent photos ‘for the blog’. It’s a bit sad, I know. We’d like to be able to switch off and forget about it sometimes, really we would.
But we just can’t. It’s intertwined with our lives. Soz.
We have friends online that can’t be real friends because they’re online
It’s getting less weird I think, as the years go by for people to class friends they have *on the internetz* as real friends. Some people still think it’s weird, I’m sure, or that they’re not real friends, but they really really are, or can be at least.
In the last few months I have made some wonderful, wonderful new blogging friends (have I talked about them enough yet….? yawwwwn) who I really feel have got my back. I haven’t met all of them, but I still think of them as friends for realz. Yes, sometimes it seems a little strange when you feel like you are friends with someone you have met online, when you’ve never actually met them in real life, and they could be flipping awful, or actually an 80 year old man from Poughkeepsie (although that’s a whole other issue). But generally I think if you have become good friends with someone online and get on brilliantly, then you probably will in real life too. And that’s ok.
We get to stay at home all day and “work” in our pyjamas. Although it’s not really “work” is it.
Yes, if we want to (and I often do) we can stay in our pyjamas all day, work in bed, eat toast and marmite all day and drink all the tea. And I feel very lucky that I can do that sometimes. Most days though I am getting up early with Ava getting her to nursery, rushing back, grabbing some breakfast and then getting on with as much blogging work as possible, washing the pots, putting the washing on, and trying to ignore all of the other house stuff that needs doing, and then rushing to pick Ava back up.
The days she isn’t at nursery are similar but I just have way less time to blog, so I’ll work even harder in the evening once she is in bed. It may not be a real ‘job’ in terms of going out to work for a set amount of hours, but we still work very hard at it.
Of course, not everyone does it to make a living from, but a blog is still a lot of hard work if you want it to do well.
I am extremely grateful for all of the opportunities that blogging brings me, and for the amazing people I have met. I work bloody hard at it, and I work more hours than I ever have. It is a juggle fitting it around everything else, staying motivated, ignoring the distractions of housework and the full fridge. But I am also very lucky in that I love it. Since I have put more time and energy into it I have started to love it even more and I am very excited to see where it goes this year.
Some bloggers are idiots; they do get products to review and just copy and paste the press release, and they do whinge and moan about every little thing. And there are some blaggers who use #prrequest to get lots of free stuff. But we’re not all like that. Promise.