I’ll be honest: it regularly pops into my head that I am a crap mum. I think part of it is tiredness, part of it is low self-esteem, and part of it is just being a mother; it comes with the territory to think we aren’t doing a good job sometimes.
So I wanted to write down some things that make me a good mum; to remember that I am always good at the most important things, the things that keep my daughter safe, happy and help her be a good person.
Of course I am not a perfect mother. I don’t think many of us are or that we could even agree on what a definition of that would be. Sometimes I mess up, let her watch too much TV, eat pizza twice in one week, shout at her, swear in front of her, don’t dress her in enough layers before we go out and let her wear those shoes that are slightly too small for slightly too long. The list could go on.
But where it counts, where it truly matters; I am a good mum. My daughter is happy, healthy, well-cared for, well-loved, polite and friendly. All of the little things that I do wrong, she doesn’t even notice most of the time. And the little things that I do automatically, like love and care for her; well, they are the bigs things to her.
I am a good mum.
And so are you.
Linking up with ‘Friday Free For All’.
Absolutely AdORE this! 🙂 x
Ahh thank you! x
It sounds like you have the important things all covered which makes you a great mum. i do this too and have times where I feel like I’m a terrible mum but i think the fact we feel that way means we care which shows we are doing the right things. If we didn’t care then that would be the worrying thing 🙂 x
Thanks Jess. I think you’re right – the fact that we care about whether we are good parents or not means that weprobably are x
This is lovely and the thing that your daughter will appreciate most is how much time you Have for her – that is gold 🙂
Thanks Catherine x
Well said. We are all doing the best we can and I don’t think anyone could questions how much we love our kids. Jx
Thanks Jess. i know, so why do we do it ourselves?! 🙂 x
I love this!
i can so relate. we beat ourselves up way too much when we’re actually putting so much love into raising those little lives.
my daughter knows i love her even if i’m having a bad mummy day.
but all too often i need a little nudge from my own mum or other half to remind me that i’m actually doing a good job. 🙂
CHLOE
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Thank you Chloe. Yes, we definitely need to be reminded that we are doing a good job sometimes don’t we? I bet if we were someone else we would think that they were doing a good job! x
I love this post – yes, you definitely are a good mum and thank you for sharing your list of the reasons why you are a good mum. I think most of us have times when we feel we are not doing a good enough job but things like letting our children know they are loved, being interested in what they do and say and knowing that they are happy means that we are doing just fine.
Yes, that’s all that matters really isn’t it. Thank you Louise x
This is so lovely and so true. I think that i am a bad mum every single day because of small things like not reading a book straight away or asking elsa to play on her own while i make the dinner. the fact is, like you said, she is healthy, happy and loved and that is all that really matters.
Oh I know, the sad look they give you when you say you can’t do something because you are cooking dinner or whatever is horrible! They are very good at making us feel guilty arent they?! You are definitely not a bad mum x
Love this, its’ so easy to fall in to the trap of constantly questioning your parenting, and it does wear off a bit as you feel more comfortable (I speak as a mum OF An 8 year old) but there is always something that will make you question it. I guess we know our kids and we love our kids and thats enough. THe rest we make up as we go along for whats right for you and your family 🙂
It’s good to hear that it does wear off a bit eventually Rebecca 🙂 Knowing and loving our kids really is all they need. Thank you x
Perfectly said. Yes we all feel that Mummy guilt but actually we are doing are a great job. I love this post and it is a lovely reminder of how much you love her xx
Thank you. I do; so much!
I think every mum has the same thoughts at sometime, but it is important to do as you have done and remember everything we do do, lovely post #thelist
This is such a lovely post! I think it comes with the territory that we always question whether we are good Mums or Not, but It’s probably only the good Mums who question themselves anyway. It sounds like your daughter couldn’t wish for a better mummy, and like you say, the most important thing is that she is loved and she knows it, and that she is safe and protected at all times. I also always question whether i’m a good mum and often doubt myself very much, but your post has opened my eyes to the fact that i’m doing ok. thank you! x
A fab post! I think we are all guilty of thinking the same. reflecting, like you have in this post, does make you realise that you are doing a good job! 🙂 #the list.
You are a great mum! I think it’s helpful to remember that we can’t do it all – so it’s important to pick your values and stick to them and not beat yourself up for the others (for example, I do cook our meals but I’m not great at crafts and I’m cool with that!) Great post xx Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx
his is a lovely post. You sound like a pretty fab mummy if you ask me! We all have out doubts, but rest assured we all do our best and thats all we can do!! 🙂 #sharewithme x
Thank you! I needed this eso today. I am a good mother and I know it but sometimes there are things that makes me think otherwise. #sharewithme
Great post. I regularly think I am a rubbish mum, the thought must cross my mind sat least once a day. But you are so right there are so many things I probably do really well and get right 100% of the time, like loving and caring for my son etc. Great post and something al us mothers need to be reminded of from time to time. #sharewithme
This is lovely and great encouragement. I am always questioning my parenting skills and if I am really a good mom or not trying to juggle way too much and not stopping in the moment for my kids. This cheered me up. Thanks. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round #sharewithme
such a lovely post! It made me say a long ‘Ahhhh’ !! I’m not a mother myself, but I’m an aunt and I regularly see my niece and nephew and I regularly think I’m not a good aunt. But you are right the main things are that we love them and protect them as much as possible. Thank you for linking this beautiful post to #frifree4all